PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP INCOMPATIBILITY TEST

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DETERMINE YOUR RELATIONSHIP
INCOMPATIBILITY UP FRONT

Before you embark on a quest to find your perfect mate, it is useful to be honest with yourself about your faults, quirks, etc.

If you have one or more failed relationships in the past, you know what your faults and problems are...you've been reminded of them many times by your former partner.

Now, it is also generally accepted therapeutic analysis that whatever one says about someone else is also true about them. So what. That relationship is over.

However, it is not a bad idea to make a list of what things your former partner found annoying, irritating, or downright rage-inducing about you.

These may actually be true.

Now, there are some things on such a list if they turn up that you really need to address and correct. If you drink too much, hit other people, act abusively, or are addicted to something, you need therapy right now.

But, there's a lot of stuff on the annoyance list which are just you. And you aren't likely to modify that annoying behavior just because you're in love (actually most people hide their annoying behavior during the first few weeks of infatuation then blow out and revert to their normal selves).

In initial encounters with members of the opposite sex, or same sex as the case may be, folks tend to focus on what they have in common and not on the other sides of them that are potential relationship problems.

Go to any internet dating site, and there's very little emphasis on dislikes and issues.

Most relationships start off focused on the positive connections, then the rest of the relationship is spent hassling over the non-positive elements until the point is reached where the couple tolerates (usually grudgingly) the negatives, or the negatives finally outweigh the positives and breakup occurs.

An incredible amount of time and energy is spent grappling with relational negativities.

The smart thing to do is get them out on the table early on in a blossoming relationship.

But, this starts with being honest with yourself about what has been problematic in your behavior in other relationships.

I think it is a good idea to exchange negativities very early on (though after the first night in bed) and see how that looks. Negotiate what is or is not going to be a deal-breaker right up front.

Take the following Incompatibility Test with your partner or would-be partner. Compare your results. We guarantee a lot of interesting conversation will result.

BASIC RELATIONSHIP INCOMPATIBILITY TEST

What sex are you?	Male Female
Do you believe you are incapable of having a relationship with another person?	Yes No
Do you have difficulty trusting people?	Yes No
Do you tend to avoid social relationships?	Yes No
Do you prefer to be alone rather than in the company of others?	Yes No
If you answered yes to the previous question, is it because you feel very anxious in presence of a member of the opposite sex, or..	Yes No
...because you are suspicious of their motives?	Yes No
Do you find yourself needing always to be praised and acknowledged for your wonderful greatness even if you aren't worthy of that praise?	Yes No
Do you see people who get taken advantage of as being weak and deserving of being used?	Yes No
Do you see yourself as being really smart with money?	Yes No
Have you ever gone bankrupt or been sued for defaulting a contract?	Yes No
Which side of the bed do you sleep on?	Left Right All over
Do you get really angry at just about anything and throw stuff at other people?	Yes No
Are you plagued by suspicions that your partner may be doing things behind your back that will end up hurting you?	Yes No
Do you always remember to put the toilet seat down (men only)?	Yes No
Do you always remember to put tools away after you use them (women only)?	Yes No
Do you think your lover's relatives are the scum of the earth?	Yes No
Is your appearance or behavior considered slovenly by other people?	Yes No
Do you like cats?	Yes No
Do you take actions without thinking about the consequences and telling your partner about what you are going to do before you do it	Yes No
Do you sometimes profit at the expense of others, without being bothered by the pain or damage you may cause them?	Yes No
Do you consider your needs to be more important to you than the needs of your partner?	Yes No
Do cats like you?	Yes No
Would you get up in the middle of the night to take care of some problem without waking up your partner?	Yes No
Do you often feel like people are saying negative things about you behind your back?	Yes No
Do you often see things in black and white terms? In other words, something either is or it isn't, with no gray area in between.	Yes No
Are you often uninterested in the feelings of your partner because he/she is a stupid idiot?	Yes No
Do you really like to dance and all the other things you told your partner you liked to do before you had sex with them?	Yes No
Are you quick to anger when your expectations are not met?	Yes No
Do you make up expectations for your partner to comply with without first talking to your partner to see if your expectations are actually achievable?	Yes No
Do you like to sit in front of the television for hours, drinking beer, and ignoring your partner?	Yes No
Do you have bad breath or other offensive body odor?	Yes No
Do you fart or belch a lot?	Yes No
Do you have a part of your body you don't want anyone else to touch?	Yes No
When the phone rings, do you always wait for your partner to answer the call?	Yes No
Do you get really annoyed when you are interrupted?	Yes No
Do you have a habit or trait that has been identified as extremely annoying by a previous partner?	Yes No
If the answer to the above is yes, have you told your current prospective partner about that annoying trait or habit?	Yes No
Given the choice of telling your partner the truth about something which you know will piss them off, are you likely to lie instead?	Yes No
Have you ever been in jail or done something that you could be put in jail for?	Yes No
Given a choice of cooking or going out to eat, you'd rather go out to eat?	Yes No
Do you still feel you have to prove yourself to your mother or father?	Yes No
Do you have a big fear of rejection (of any kind, not just romantic)?	Yes No
Do you hate planning meals for your partner?	Yes No
Are you willing to clean out the toilet bowls in your home?	Yes No
Do you agree with the statement that if there is a problem on the roof, it is the man's job to find out what it is?	Yes No
Do you agree with the statement that yard work is men's work?	Yes No
Do you really like to cook?	Yes No
Do you agree with the statement that housework is women's work?	Yes No
Do you gamble?	Yes No
Do eat at the same speed as your partner and finish a meal at the same time as your partner?	Yes No
Have you loaned money to relatives or friends without telling your partner you did this?	Yes No
Do you believe each partner should have their own bank accounts ands be responsible for balancing their own checking accounts?	Yes No
When having an argument with your partner, do you try and change the subject?	Yes No
Is the first thought when you come home from work to give your partner a hug and a kiss?	Yes No
Do you exaggerate the potential difficulties of a situation in order to gain sympathy from your partner?	Yes No
Do you like dogs?	Yes No
Do dogs like you?	Yes No
If you found a mouse in your house, you would kill it?	Yes No
Do you have a secret that you believe if your partner knew about it, they would leave you?	Yes No
Do you use pesticides inside and outside your house to kill bugs?	Yes No
If your partner was drowning, would you jump in and try to save him or her?	Yes No
Do you avoid working with your partner around the house because your partner seriously annoys you in the context of work?	Yes No
Do you often let your partner make important decisions for you that you subsequently resent?	Yes No
Do you have a tendency to do mean and nasty things to your partner to get even for some past offenses?	Yes No
Do you hate being asked questions by your partner that have no right answer?	Yes No
Do you not give a shit how you look in public?	Yes No
If your partner was unzipped would you let him or her go out in public without telling him/her to zip up (or take care of the zipper yourself)?	Yes No
Do you have a hard time throwing things away, even if they are old and worn out?	Yes No
Would you really enjoy doing your fair share of the housework?	Yes No
Do you do your own laundry and ironing?	Yes No
Each partner takes this test and then compares their answers.

Now...if you are still speaking to each other, take this second test and find out to what degree you two are sexually compatible (or not)......

CLICK HERE FOR MY SEXUAL INCOMPATIBILITY TEST

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